Egyptian In-Laws

Post by **Nilegoddess** » Thu Nov 06, 2008 10:57 pm

So now you have the perfect husband, the home and the life of a goddess I just wonder what you think about your new in-laws, were they what you expected? were you accepted into the family with open arms, was their conflict, do they invite you around for coffee ?

Are Egyptians in-laws better than western ones?

Post by **Goddess** » Fri Nov 07, 2008 11:55 am

Did someone mention me??

Post by **Hurghada Lady** » Fri Nov 07, 2008 2:00 pm

Post by **Nilegoddess** » Tue Nov 11, 2008 8:50 am

all deathly quiet on the in-laws front then ha ha

Post by **Goddess** » Tue Nov 11, 2008 1:14 pm

Mine are more like Out-Laws - so I didn't feel qualified to answer!

Post by **Hurghada Lady** » Tue Nov 11, 2008 4:34 pm

Mine are as good as gold, when we got married, my Father-in-Law gave us a piece of land. My Mother-in-Law gives us anything we want, they are always there for us. If I have a problem with any of my brother-in-laws, my Mother-in-Law always sides with me, if I have an arguement with my husband, she keeps totally out of it and makes sure nobody else interferes either. Her opinion is we have to sort ourselves out and if people interfere then it makes it worse, which is a very unusual attitude for any Egyptian. I am very lucky really, I can't fault my In-Laws in any way.

Post by **Binti** » Fri May 01, 2009 11:33 am

Mine smother me with love & affection & the mother defends me to everyone....if anyone dares to call me a *FOREIGNER* she JUMPS to my defence saying *SHES HIS WIFE NOT A FOREIGNER* I just laugh!!

They also try to overfeed me they think im too thin!!!!!! THEY MUST NEED GLASSES!!!

When I go to the UK they never ask for presents & if I bring anything they are very grateful.

My niece did say to me * Aunty people with your hair colour go to the church not Mosque* & was chastised by her mum...

Post by **New Gal** » Sat May 09, 2009 10:18 am

Oooooh the thought of having in-laws, Egyptian or otherwise...I've come out in a rash....

And no, I don't have commitment issues

Post by **DEE24** » Tue Jun 23, 2009 7:05 pm

im really starting to panic i have never met my in-laws yet i am goin to meet them in 2weeks and am terrified...they speak no english sisters do but mother and father do not....have met all the uncles cousins aunts etc and have got on well with them

but im really stressing bout meeting them what if they dont like me...what can i do to make them like me??....my arabic isnt very good so i know im going to feel so uncomfortable, embarassed i get really shy when i get nervous and this sometimes comes off as snobbish and i dont want them to think that........

agh as u can see im rambling...any suggestions, stories of when they first went to meet the in laws

Post by **Hurghada Lady** » Tue Jun 23, 2009 8:40 pm

DEE24 wrote:im really starting to panic i have never met my in-laws yet i am goin to meet them in 2weeks and am terrified...they speak no english sisters do but mother and father do not....have met all the uncles cousins aunts etc and have got on well with them

but im really stressing bout meeting them what if they dont like me...what can i do to make them like me??....my arabic isnt very good so i know im going to feel so uncomfortable, embarassed i get really shy when i get nervous and this sometimes comes off as snobbish and i dont want them to think that........

agh as u can see im rambling...any suggestions, stories of when they first went to meet the in laws

Where do the in-laws live Dee?

Post by **FABlux** » Tue Jun 23, 2009 10:30 pm

Just think they are probably just as nervous as you. You are married to their son & they want you to like them because they want you to visit them, especially if you go on to have children, they will want to dote on them so they need to make a good impression & welcome you.

You'll be fine

Post by **New Gal** » Tue Jun 23, 2009 11:06 pm

Chill, relax, be yourself, I'm sure they will love you. Your fella obviously does so if they don't make an effort, its their loss x

Post by **DEE24** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 9:02 am

aww thanks for the support i know im probably over worrying but first impressions and all........

they live in Domiatt (ignore my spelling it could be wrong!:oops:) so alot more conservative than sharm dont think ill b turning up in one of my sundresses!!:D

Post by **Ebikatsu** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 11:55 am

Love mine to death.

It's crucial you get along with in laws in Egypt for a marriage to survive.
They play a huge role. The sons especially are dotted on by the mothers and there is a huge bond there and if there is conflict it will usually be the wife who will lose out in the end.
They don't lose out! you do in this culture.

Our family are very close. They never interfere. I have never in 5 years of knowing them had a single bad, or cross word to say to them. They are funny and very very loving.
If they feel that you love their son and feel that you are genuine then you will have no problems

Sharm type dresses are def out!!

They will be very aware of what their neighbours think of the son's wife

How respectable she is in their eyes.
If they don't care about what you are wearing if it is very Western

and he doesn't seem too bothered, then be very careful.

Watch how they interact. Is it genuine or not?

Hope it all goes well

Post by **DEE24** » Wed Jun 24, 2009 10:21 pm

my husband is going taking me shoppin in cairo for clothes to wear should be interesting im sure it will end up like him taking a six year old child... no i dont like this...yuck....u expect me to wear that!!!

he said it would prob b better if i wore a scarf in the street as otherwise everyone will really be staring ...the foreigner...and that i could then take it straight off in the house but he says its upto me hes not goin to force me wear it......

does anybody else wear one when visiting???

Post by **Hurghada Lady** » Thu Jun 25, 2009 11:59 am

I don't, I just make sure my arms are covered and I wear long skirts to the ankle regardless here or in England so my legs are covered anyway. But I have to say Dee this is in Hurghada, if it was somehwere where no tourists are about I would probably put a scarf on but do it in a fashionable way, they wrap it around their head and then somehow roll the ends and wrap the rolled ends over the top and tie it underneath, looks quite good and you are covered.

Post by **New Gal** » Thu Jun 25, 2009 2:20 pm

Isn’t it offensive to Muslims to wear one for appearances sake rather than properly and all the time?

Post by **DEE24** » Thu Jun 25, 2009 2:38 pm

I never heard of that you are muslim you should be able tell us?? i know alot of coptic christians who wear scarfs tied different that the muslim way?
i was thinking it would be more respectful to cover up??? you dont feel this is correct??you think im insulting them by covering?:? wow id never heard that by respecting the families believes &ways of society im insulting them?

when hilary clinton was here i saw pictures of her on the front of the paper wearing a scarf again just covering her hair..not tied muslim stlye...i never heard complaints from anyone/any newspapers/television? was there?was she not just been respectful ??

anybody else got suggestions on that?

Post by **Hurghada Lady** » Thu Jun 25, 2009 2:42 pm

Many of the Muslim women in Cairo where their covers like this, have seen them do it in Luxor also.

Post by **New Gal** » Thu Jun 25, 2009 3:58 pm

Its just my opinion that if its worn, it should be worn for the correct reasons and not just for the sake of escaping a few stares etc. Its your choice whether to do so but for me, yes, I would be offended if say, my brother’s non Muslim girlfriend wore one just for the sake of wearing one.

Its nice that you are trying to fit in but I don’t necessarily think that you need to wear a scarf to be respectful.